The Black Dog of Depression and Other Forms of Self Sabotage

The Black Dog of Depression and Other Forms of Self Sabotage

Article by Christofer French, Psy.D.

Self Sabotage – “Against Your Own Interest” Viral ProgrammingIt’s not that he could not acknowledge his “black dog” of depression. It’s just that he considered it a part of his interesting personality. He had great karma they said. Married well, great kids, carved his way to a nice career, plowing up through tons of good will, carting his “black dog” with him as he went. He considered it to be a part of his bearing, his “Gravitas”. It made him imposing, even though he was just a sullen, underweight, sloop-shouldered grave person.

Those friends who said he had wonderful good fortune were really silently commenting on his untreated gray ambient misery. They were really saying: “Wow, he does so well, and has so many good things happen to him, even though he’s a schmuck!” People had sympathy for him. He would sit at parties staring holes into walls, and sipping on drinks, as he did his best to ignore laughter and mirth. Then after a decade or so, his wife just collapsed and declared she had had enough. He was actually surprised. But no one else was. His self sabotage had finally done him in. It was set on a clock. The clock was ticking inside his wife’s noble heart and vigorously powerful demeanor. Her friends understood. They said, ‘Well, I was wondering how long she could take an untreated dark specter lying next to her every night.”

You might ask why people did not have more sympathy. That is an easy question. He would not address his problem, as a problem. He could not see the angel of death cast that he had to his face. It got worse and worse. “Viral programming” tends to creep and gain ground on the victim. Just like a virus, it takes up residence in the nooks and crannies of the unobserved wrinkles of the tortured soul. His real problem was his arrogance and his pride. That was so monumental that his “Achilles Heal” was his depression, but his pride put him out there on the field of battle where he should not have been. Amazingly, he let the divorce happen without making attempts at reconciliation. It was his view that his wife did not understand him. His wife silently agreed to his assessment that: “they were so different.” And he was so superior, as he told himself in divorce court. His wife found out he had been unfaithful. She just shook her head and said. “Take him. Take him.”

Raw Sharp Anger Right Across the Face of Her Loved Ones

Her conversation was pleasant, except when she let that anger go. She had relative charm and a kindness that was present enough for her to have friends. People thought she was bi-polar, but she did not have the self awareness to investigate that possibility. For every friend she would make, she would quietly lose one on the back side. She moved through streams of human contacts, interacting and honestly needing friends. She would suddenly jump into mini-rages and get a funny look in her eyes. She brought way too much to her conflicts. She weighed down her “boxing gloves” with a column of quarters. There were those who would take her on. And those who would make her realize that her game had a price. But, she would move on; knowing that people who took the time to let fly with some self defense, were lost to her anyway, by the rising of the next sun.

She was not a tragedy as much as an mildly infected sufferer of angst, anxiety, sarcasm and vexing silly challenges. Annoying and often vicious. And wow, was she hot! A friend joked: “She got way too much attention when she was young. Her parents loved the hell out of her and ruined her.” The viral nature of her curse was that she just could not build up any good will. Her infection was like an ugly boil. An absolutely beautiful woman with a permanent blemish. Her kids, surprisingly developed sweet charm; almost as an antidote to their spasmodically cruel mother. The husband had learned long ago not to “engage her”, and was not surprised when they were often not invited out as a couple. His bridge night gave him a respite and a private joy of companionship that nourished him. He consciously became a golfer. He would say: “18 holes in the open air, and I get some exercise.” When she would ask him why he had taken up the sport with serious conviction.

The Jokester Is Wild

Ceaseless, annoying, joking has a way of cutting off communication and drawing attention to the Jokester. There seems to be at least one in every large department or team. You can see why they become habitually tuned to this kind of communication. Maybe an initial talent to tell jokes or be funny, unnecessarily buoys a person who may otherwise be low on confidence socially. Since it works once, he tries it several times, and then, against all evidence, he becomes emboldened to tell more and more jokes, make up his own jokes, and become “clever” when he is not really that sharp to begin with. This humor “bundling” has long term relationship-altering effects. It shuts down sincere open talk. People steer around interfacing. Becoming known for humor alone, the overall image suffers. People do not share intimate or close moments with the Jokester. This self sabotage is strange because the nature of it makes the sufferer feel comfortable and at ease. It is not like drunkenness, anger, depression or other more severe characteristics. But the sabotage still occurs, creating distance if not offense.

A friend once pulled the Jokester aside. She said, “You know things are not funny all the time. People sense that you are insincere and somewhat unaware of the real issues going on. I know you have a serious nature and are quite warm, but somehow, you don’t come off that way.” This individual was so pathologically in his mode, he made a joke about her comment. “You know, I feel more like I do now than I did when I came in! Haha.” This person could use counseling, but will probably never seek it out. You see. In his eyes, he does not have a problem.

The Frog and The Scorpion

A tale that many have heard, probably from Sufi tradition or even older sources, is the story of the Frog and the Scorpion. The Scorpion is on the river’s edge and wants to cross to the other side. The Scorpion begs the Frog for the use of his back as the Frog crosses. The Frog being obviously concerned about being fatally stung, refuses. The Scorpion uses its best persuasion: “If I stung you then I would drowned, as you died.” The Frog thinks logically. “That makes sense”. And so the Scorpion takes a ride on the Frog. Half way across, the Scorpion decides to sting the Frog. As the stinger sinks in to the Frog’s skin. The Frog laments: “You promised you would not sting me, and now you are going to die too.” The Scorpion feels the water lapping around him. “I could not resist. It is my nature.” And so it is. There are many things in our personal natures that we have a hard time resisting. Even though we are hurt and damaged by our own actions. It is simply the way life often works. Self knowledge through astrology or analysis or therapy or through plain old experience can lead us to conscious avoidance of behavior that hurts our own interest. This is a deep topic because it often involves unconscious and subconscious motivations. It is not an easy topic to discuss because it saddens us. There is a helplessness here that can feel defeating. And yet the prospect of conquest should enliven us.

Stealing Away Our Brains

To reach for a state of elevation, we can conclude that certain behaviors seem to be natural, even though there is a self destructive element. Certainly greater consciousness can improve us and self destruction can be removed. Inebriation is probably the best and oldest example of self sabotage. Shakespeare had Othello say: “Oh God, that men should put an enemy in their mouths to steal away their brains…” Self Sabotage of all types has this strange similitude. Whether alcohol is actually involved or not, there seems to be a human quality of acting as if “our brains were stolen away”. The virus, that phenomenal part of nature that has no inherent life of itself, acts against us and yet it seeks to live in us to perpetuate itself. Sounds like some habits that we have. The first goal is to say: “This is a Virus. Not me!” Christofer French is the Founder of Astrologygetalong.com. Read its many articles.

About the Author

Behavior that harms us more than helps us is age old, but remarkably illogical. You can gather friends around you and ask for help, if you think there are things you are doing to yourself that you could well live without. Christofer French has counseled and observed these behaviors in many settings over the years. Read his new book: “How To Get Along With All Those Sun Signs”.

Having Trouble Finding a Dog Food for Allergies?

Having Trouble Finding a Dog Food for Allergies?

Article by Chris Hardee

I can fully appreciate why people want to save money by buying cheaper dog food. Let’s face it, times are tight and people are trying to save money any way they can. While we are shopping at the big-box store, it can be very convenient to pick up a bag of the cheaper dog food and save a few dollars. After all, it’s convenient and you can just throw it in your grocery cart. But how much does that bag of dog food really cost you?

What some people don’t realize is how many filler ingredients are in that bag of dog food. To save money on more expensive meats, some companies place things like corn meal, wheat, and animal byproducts in their food. The companies then add extra fat to cover up the taste of these ingredients so the dogs will eat it.

I have read some amazing stories about things that go into dog foods. There are all kinds of byproducts that are not fit to be consumed by humans. Ingredients like peanut shells, chicken beaks, and leftover parts that most of us wouldn’t even want to think of can be in dog food.

The problem is that some dogs will eat this food and not have any immediate problems. Now you’re probably wondering why I said this is a problem. It’s very much like if we were to eat fast food every day for the rest of our lives. We’re filling up our animals with the equivalent of junk food, and then wonder why they live shorter lives.

Sometimes finding a dog food for allergies means going out of your way. It may mean driving to a feed store instead of the local box store. It may mean paying more money to make sure you get a good quality food for your dog. The good news is that this food will help your dog live a longer, healthier life. They won’t have to suffer through a lot of the dog food allergy symptoms with increased itchiness. It will limit how much time they spend scratching, licking, and being generally miserable.

Finding a dog food for allergies really isn’t difficult. It involves doing the proper research. Once you find a food that you like, find a company close to your home that carries it. It may not be quite as convenient as your local grocery store, but I believe you will find it well worth the time and money.

You have the power to help your dog by making good choices in his or her food. While you may save money in many different areas of life, that cheap bag of dog food may cost you thousands in vet bills later in your pet’s life.

Want to learn more about dog food allergies?

About the Author

Chris Hardee runs the site If Dogs Could Read which helps people learn about the different types of dog allergies among other things.

Care and as well , Repair Of Carts For Dogs

Care and as well , Repair Of Carts For Dogs

Article by Marie Malacaman

To purchase carts for dogs, outfitting the houses, and education its animal friends. The above are a couple of elements the dog’s family members truly does for the equipment household pets. It doesn’t matter if it’s to have short-term or just long-term situation-recovering right from a trauma, and lack of use of braches because of an injury, or even a degenerative illness-dog masters accomplish their that will adapt and like a person’s four-legged members of the family.

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American Culinary Hot Spots: Where to Dine in the United States

American Culinary Hot Spots: Where to Dine in the United States

Article by Davy Reiner

American food is truly a blend of cuisines from all over the world. From street side food to delis to fine dining establishments, the cuisine of America has a lot to offer.

American cuisine is a rich blend of food styles from around the world. With foods from Italian and French to African to Mexican to Asian combining with traditional English dishes, American cuisine has a lot to offer to tantalize your taste buds.

America also has culinary hot spots, where cuisine and the culinary arts are appreciated and reverently admired and administered. Connoisseurs of these culinary arts and their expert opinions have given rise to a number of award winning restaurants, shows and competitions. And behind the scenes, running these restaurants and shows, are a number of celebrity Chefs. It is in these culinary hot spots that fine dining has taken on the persona of an art form.

In California, the local cuisine is a blend of fresh spices and fruit bringing together a number of cooking styles and ingredients. All of these combine well with the traditional foods of California – giving birth to a lot of culinary schools and celebrity chefs. And of course, one has to know that California is the birthplace of several fast food chains like McDonald’s which are globally recognized brand icons. San Francisco and Los Angeles also incorporate the Mexican influence on the food scenario, with its ‘Baja Style’. Rich tasting, hot and spicy foods, grilled and barbecued foods (be it meat, poultry or sea food) – all of these have given rise to a number of fine dining establishments, which are considered to be amongst the hottest places to eat in America.

In Florida, we can see the blend of Spanish and Southern cuisines that have created a unique and diverse range of foods for savoring. A variety of peppers that grow natively are used to flavor the sauces. Fresh fruit, sea food and locally grown ginger are common ingredients of several recipes native to Florida. And of course, the food tastes evolve with the introduction of different cultures into the already existing exotic mix. Florida offers a range of foods for the discerning eater – from Cuban to Vietnamese, Florida has several dishes on the menu, also making it one of the hottest places to eat in America.

No other place sees diversity in cultures and tastes like New York City! A true combination of cultures from over the globe – with specialty restaurants offering exquisitely original foods from even the remotest places of the world – New York City has something to offer for everybody. And yet the city also lays claim to so many ‘original’ dishes like Waldorf Salad, Pasta Primavera, Reuben Sandwich and the Ice Cream Cone. New York City is also famous for its mouthwatering street side foods like Hot Dogs and Pizzas. New York City offers a diverse and rich dining experience from street side food carts, and small, cozy delis to fine, up-scale restaurants – also making it one of the hottest places to eat in America.

Truly, one of the best ways to experience America is via the foods of and tastes offered by its globally encompassing and ethnically diverse cuisines – making America one of the hottest places to eat!

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Do You Have the Right Food and Beverage Carts in Roller Coaster Kingdom (food and beverage carts)

Do You Have the Right Food and Beverage Carts in Roller Coaster Kingdom (food and beverage carts)

Article by Jeff Lenney

There are a number of things that are vital to the operation of Roller Coaster Kingdom. For many, food and beverage carts become a bit of an Achilles heel – something they forget to add to their parks until too late or that they put off in a corner somewhere that they get completely ignored. If you play it correctly though, food and beverage carts can be a tremendous boon to your park. They not only make the visitors happier for having the option, but they provide a much needed boost in revenue that cannot be made with rides alone. Here are some tips to help choose the right carts and locations for those carts to optimize your park in full.Which Food and Beverage Carts Do You Need?When you first get started, the easiest carts to put into place are the popcorn and lemonades stands. These two stands are going to offer the exact combination of high demand items and low cost production that you want to keep your visitors happy and flip a profit on them. The best way to set up your carts is at a ratio of one cart for every three rides in the park. That ratio will keep the visitors happy and maintain a good number of stop overs when your visitors walk the paths. When you reach a high enough level, upgrade your food to hot dogs and your drinks to coffee as these new ones will provide you with more income and higher demand. Where Should Those Carts be Put?Cart positioning is relatively simple. Find good spots near the rides themselves along the path and those customers will come pouring in from their rides to eat up your goods. Don’t hide the carts in back corners or behind rides and always make sure to maintain a good eye on the efficiency of each cart. If one doesn’t perform in a given spot, move it somewhere else.If you have a lot of food and beverage carts in your park you are going to make more coins and make your customers happy. Of course, you want to be sure you hit the right balance without too many carts. Otherwise, you take away all of the money from your customers and miss out on a good chunk of possible XP that you could gain from rides. So, the right balance is vital. If you can hit that balance though, your park will continue to run smoothly for weeks to come – allowing you to focus on sprucing it up and creating the perfect theme park.

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